Post on 01-Jan-2016
• Roxana and Constantin have been married for ten years and have one child
• Frequent communication paves the way for their successful marriage.
• The most fulfilling thing about their ralationships is communication.
• Sandra ,from the Netherlands noticed that her husband, John,a financial advisor,talked less and less ,it really annoyed her.
• She suggested they seek help,and her husband agreed.
• After enquiry the marriage counsellor, their relationship has improved.
• Communication between partners is
the gateway not only to important emotions but also
to physical compatibility.
• Couple communication is
complex and involves
physical ,emotional and verbal cues that many of us have difficulty sending and
receiving.
1.High Five• The high
five has the power to dramatically change the quality of your communication and can bring harmony even to troubled couples
first step: settle down together in a quiet , comfortable room step two: learning , understanding and respecting your partnerstep three: write down and prioritises the top five things your partner could do to make you happier
2.Listen and Don't Speak• The easiest communication
tool: Listen• This may sound simple , but listening
well requires focus and openness• One corrective model is the Imago
therapeutic method , which slows down conversation and ramps up communication.
3.An inviolable Talk Time
• make a daily date to really talk.
• the point is to reserve time each day to share thoughts ,experiences and feelings
• don't over-analyse something positive or hold it back
• sharing thoughts with each other will promote a better emotional connection
4.Don't just think it-say it
5.Time-out avoids saying or
doing hurtful thingLet your
feelings cool down
Make an appointment to talk the next day
You'll be less likely to yell at each other or be defensive or cutting
• To break the negative cycle , stop reinforcing negatif behaviour
• If communication has become excruciating and counterproductive , consider a third party to help you
• Find a good relationship counsellor or marriage therapist
6.Stop the madness: consider
counselling
1.paves 铺平2.fulfilling 履行 3.vice versa 反之亦然 4.immensely 非常 5.entrepreneur 企业家 6.surveyed 受访 7.swapping 交换 8.verbal cues 口头线索 9.frustrated 受挫 10.seek 寻求11.unwind 放松12.inviolable 不可侵犯
13.Constructive有益
14.Defensive 防御的
15.Reinforcing 加深
16.Excruciating苦恼的
17.Counterproductive 产生不良后果的
18.Brink 边缘19.Desire 渴望20.Critical 吹毛求
疵的